My Favourite ‘F-Word’
My favourite
‘F-Word’
My favourite F Word. Can you guess what it is?
No …
It’s not FRIDAY
It is also not FOOD.
Some of you might think it is FAIJITA … because I love Mexican Food!!
My favourite F word happens to be …
FEEDBACK
Yes, you heard right. It is Feedback
My go-to High Performance Guru Brendon Burchard teaches that when we have BIG goals we need to have weekly “check in’s”.
So when you have BIG dreams and BIG goals who are you going to for regular feedback?
Feedback - Socializing your learnings
We are all social beings. We learn by doing and we learn by discussions. We all need processing time in conversation with other people to discover more and to create momentum. (This is why coaching and mentoring is so powerful).
Who do you know in your wider network or inner circle that you can ask for feedback? Who is that one person that you can go to at the end of every week that you can talk through your goals and learnings with?
A goal unspoken is really just a hope
The best thing is, these don’t need to be formal meetings for them to be effective!! They can be as simple as a phone call on a FRIDAY and it can go like this:
“These are the exciting things that happened
These are the things that I did well …
These are some of the challenge I overcame
Here are some things I am struggling with – this is what worked and here are the things I am really struggling with”
And then … Let them have a turn.
Start to Socialize your learnings and flex the muscles that build resilience and boost your confidence. You see. A goal unspoken is really just a hope.
We have to socialize our goals so that they stay in our focus.
We need to hold ourselves accountable and be held accountable by processing our goals with others so that they don’t disappear into the background because we have become distracted by other shiny things.
Step into your stretch zone – a zone where things feel unfamiliar, but also where growth takes place
You have to ask.
When you learn to ask for feedback, and you heard how simple it can be, you start to make success a MUST.
You have to listen. I mean really listen.
Not to respond or to explain, but really listen to understand and because your focus is on learning from the discussion. Big goals, big dreams mean you have to step into your stretch zone – a zone where things feel unfamiliar and uncertain. Feedback brings clarity. Feedback draws you back into focus
“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better.”
My favourite F word is FEEDBACK
When we seek it consistently and regularly we create momentum.
When we create these kind of social feedback loops as part of our weekly habits we create the energy for learning, progress and for overcoming challenges. All the things that resilience people are good at.
So who are you going to call this Friday, for you Feedback loop? Who are you going to start a conversation with where you can share
Your wins
Your challenges
The thing that you got most pleasure out of this week
The things that bought you Joy and
The lessons you learned.
This is how we inspire momentum, progress and learning
This is why FEEDBACK is my favourite F word
This blog post was inspired by a recent (online) talk I gave as part of the Toastmasters Visionary Communication Pathway - Level 1: Evaluation & Feedback.
You can watch the recording of my speech here. Watch time 6min40
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